Online Dating Tips for Guys
If you want to meet more eligible women or looking for that right partner, online dating is quickly becoming the number one way to date for today’s busy single man to cultivate his dating options.
And if you do it right, it can revolutionize your dating life. But it’s not quite as easy as it sounds. Women can get a lot of attention when they post a profile online – and it’s not always the kind of attention they’re looking for! There’s a lot of competition out there, so even if a woman does notice you, you are just a profile and a paragraph, so the smallest mistake can make her decide to move along to the next guy.
If you want to be successful at online dating, you can follow these simple rules that will help ensure you don’t miss out on what could be the start of something great:
1. Keep your profile simple and positive.
When you write your profile, keep it short and to the point – two or three paragraphs is plenty. If you’ve been burned in past relationships (haven’t we all?), your profile is not the time to mention it. Skip the innuendo and write about things that you’re likely to have in common with women you want to date.
2. Post the right pictures of yourself.
Even if you have the body that belongs on a magazine cover, a shirtless or flexing picture is always a bad idea. Regardless of what you look like this will turn off far more women than it attracts. It’s also a good idea to make sure there is no question which person in a photograph is you, and not to post any pictures with women that aren’t obviously your mother or grandmother.
3. Don’t expect women to contact you.
Just like in the “offline” dating world, most women seem to prefer to wait for men to contact them. Plus, there are far more men than women doing online dating, so your profile gets lumped in with hundreds of other guys. So you’ll need to take control of the situation and reply to women’s ads to get their attention. When you do this, make sure you have carefully read the woman’s profile and make specific references to it when you contact her. If you send a form-letter response to every woman you see, she’ll be able to tell, and she won’t respond. Keep your emails short, friendly, and to the point. Ask questions about her interests to get a conversation rolling.
4. Take it easy.
For good reason, women often view men they meet online with some suspicion at first. Pushing for a phone number or a date in a first email will make this worse. It’s not uncommon for there to be three or more email exchanges before a phone number even enters the conversation. Take your time and favor crafting good, interesting emails over responding to her immediately. Be patient and concentrate on finding common interests before you ask for a phone number, and then use a first phone call to set up a face-to-face meeting.
5. Keep your expectations in check.
Online dating is a low-investment dating format, and that’s a double-edged sword. Just as you can meet a woman with a quick search and email, either of you can decide that you aren’t interested for just about any reason. So don’t take it personally if a woman stops responding to your emails. Some people are polite enough to send a “sorry, don’t think this is what I’m looking for” email, some aren’t, and you can’t control that. When you do set up a date, keep it short and simple, like an after-work drink or a cup of coffee at a well-known public place. There will be times that online chemistry won’t translate to an in-person meeting, and a planned short meeting allows that to happen with minimum time and money invested.
Of course, there is much more to really mastering online dating, but if you follow these simple rules, you’ll already be ahead of the game.
And if you do it right, it can revolutionize your dating life. But it’s not quite as easy as it sounds. Women can get a lot of attention when they post a profile online – and it’s not always the kind of attention they’re looking for! There’s a lot of competition out there, so even if a woman does notice you, you are just a profile and a paragraph, so the smallest mistake can make her decide to move along to the next guy.
If you want to be successful at online dating, you can follow these simple rules that will help ensure you don’t miss out on what could be the start of something great:
1. Keep your profile simple and positive.
When you write your profile, keep it short and to the point – two or three paragraphs is plenty. If you’ve been burned in past relationships (haven’t we all?), your profile is not the time to mention it. Skip the innuendo and write about things that you’re likely to have in common with women you want to date.
2. Post the right pictures of yourself.
Even if you have the body that belongs on a magazine cover, a shirtless or flexing picture is always a bad idea. Regardless of what you look like this will turn off far more women than it attracts. It’s also a good idea to make sure there is no question which person in a photograph is you, and not to post any pictures with women that aren’t obviously your mother or grandmother.
3. Don’t expect women to contact you.
Just like in the “offline” dating world, most women seem to prefer to wait for men to contact them. Plus, there are far more men than women doing online dating, so your profile gets lumped in with hundreds of other guys. So you’ll need to take control of the situation and reply to women’s ads to get their attention. When you do this, make sure you have carefully read the woman’s profile and make specific references to it when you contact her. If you send a form-letter response to every woman you see, she’ll be able to tell, and she won’t respond. Keep your emails short, friendly, and to the point. Ask questions about her interests to get a conversation rolling.
4. Take it easy.
For good reason, women often view men they meet online with some suspicion at first. Pushing for a phone number or a date in a first email will make this worse. It’s not uncommon for there to be three or more email exchanges before a phone number even enters the conversation. Take your time and favor crafting good, interesting emails over responding to her immediately. Be patient and concentrate on finding common interests before you ask for a phone number, and then use a first phone call to set up a face-to-face meeting.
5. Keep your expectations in check.
Online dating is a low-investment dating format, and that’s a double-edged sword. Just as you can meet a woman with a quick search and email, either of you can decide that you aren’t interested for just about any reason. So don’t take it personally if a woman stops responding to your emails. Some people are polite enough to send a “sorry, don’t think this is what I’m looking for” email, some aren’t, and you can’t control that. When you do set up a date, keep it short and simple, like an after-work drink or a cup of coffee at a well-known public place. There will be times that online chemistry won’t translate to an in-person meeting, and a planned short meeting allows that to happen with minimum time and money invested.
Of course, there is much more to really mastering online dating, but if you follow these simple rules, you’ll already be ahead of the game.
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