What should I do and where do i start?Well, there are many ways to start off. Firstly,it depends on what are you actually looking for? Are you looking for an invisible listener, love of your life, a good friend and so on, so forth?
Many out there tend to hide their true feelings and self when approaching the "online dating/romance world". Yes, this is true and understandable as humans tend to be defensive when trying out new stuff or exploring new places. Online dating web sites offer a fun, exciting and secure environment for interacting and meeting with other single people online. There are all types of people online just as in the real world.
There are people who just want to have fun and may back out at the last minute. Others may act more serious and want to find their “one true love.” Next there might be the chatty person who just wants to meet a bunch of people and not actually go on a date. Finally, the largest group is the dedicated searchers who are online to find a date and make a connection
If you decide to take that all important step of meeting someone in real life, remember, common sense is by far your best safety tool.
Now read on and let these guides assist you, till you get the hang of it.
Step 1 : Be Honest and Pace Yourself!When e-mailing and IM-ing (Instant Messaging) with others, be positive, upbeat and honest, yes honest. Think of it like when you’re meeting people for the first time in "real life," . So it’s never a good idea to bombard someone with the unadulterated story of your life complete with every road bump and detour. Keep the honesty, but don’t overwhelm your online friend with too much information too soon. Control yourself or in anoher word, Pace yourself!
Step 2 : Demonstrate Why You’re UniqueRound out your profile with interesting information that highlights your unique personality, background and interests. Everyone enjoys walks on the beach and snuggling up by the fireplace…. so go beyond the ordinary and offer up detail on authors you’re inspired by, places you’ve visited or dreamed about seeing, etc. Go beyond the ordinary and you’ll reap the rewards!
You'll be suprised on the attractions it brings. Again as mental note, don't create up something that isn't true just because it looks cool. Trust me, you'll be inviting trouble.
Step 3 : Meet People at Your Own Pace
Don’t feel pressured to meet face to face before you’re ready. Men usually do better when they let women control the pace of the online relationship, since a woman may need a little more time to feel safe. Men would do well to let women know they are interested in meeting face-to-face, but then to step back and let the woman say when. Guys be gentlemen, ladies take your time!
Step 4 : Quality Time for Quality ProfileInvest quality time in your online profile: daters can tell how serious you are by the quality of your profile. Make your profile match your level of interest in dating.
Step 5 : Photogenic........No?Post a quality photo: don’t oversell yourself but at the same time don’t hurt your chances with a blurry or distant photo. Go for a flattering, realistic photo.
Step 6 : Interesting MeLook for people who want similar relationships: if you want to find your soulmate, don’t answer ads for people looking for a casual relationship.
Step 7 : Hold Your NumbersUse an e-mail address or cell phone number as an initial means of contact. Do not give out your home phone number. Not after you've been through the first date, then its alright.
Talk on the phone: if you’ve made an online connection, it’s tempting to jump to an in-person date. Take advantage of one or two phone calls before committing to an offline rendezvous.